Darling,
If you are really sincere about meeting a reputable transexual lady who is looking for a serious relationship with a man, with the possibility of being your wife in a husband/wife relationship, I would suggest you go through a professional transexual dating service and check the dating services credentials to make certain it is legit. See if they have a good track record in regards to transexual women's relationships and marriages with men, with mutual love and respect between the transexual ladies and the men they are with.
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Also you have to really appreciate the transexual woman as a woman, whether she still has her male genetalia or not. You have to respect her as a person and as a woman, if you want a husband/wife relationship with her, you cannot treat her as a slut or a bargirl, if you want a classy T-lady to love, and who will love you.
It has to be more than just a sexual relationship. T-ladies regard themselves as women and want to be treated as such, with the same love and respect that a genetic woman would. T-ladies are also individuals, you need to love and respect her as an individual, you need to compliment her and be compatible with her, just as you would a genetic woman.
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In East Asian countries, there is a tradition of "ladyboys", of males being made into females, that has been enhanced in recent decades by modern medical science.
There are a number of very femme young boys in East Asia, especially in Thailand, who prefer to be girls and grow up to be women, and they are transitioned into being girls in their teen years.
These young femme boys are dressed as girls in skirts and dresses starting when they are 12 or 13, are given female names, they then have their ears pierced and wear earrings, they are given feminine hairstyles, they are taught to apply their makeup and lipstick, and they are made into beautiful, feminine teenaged girls, and then they are trained to be females who live and act as females, who will grow up and be women and be with men.
These young transexual women are taught both by genetic women and transexual women to be females and to be able to serve and please men.
These young transexual girls go on estrogen to develop female characteristics, they prefer to be girls and are taught to be very feminine, submissive, and ladylike, and to be women who know how to please men.
By the time they are 18, these young transexual women are trained in to be women, and are ready to be with men, and these transexual females look and act as women, enjoy being women, and consider themselves to be women. These young transexual women have often had their facial and chest hair removed with laser or electrolysis, they have soft skin, and women's bodies and women's hips and women's breasts, due to the estrogen. They have women's faces due to facial femininzation surgery. They talk and act like women, they believe themselves to be women and have women's mannerisms. They have their ears pierced and wearing earrings, they also wear other women's jewelry, they wear women's perfume, they have their hair styled in women's hairstyles, they pluck their eyebrows, wear makeup and lipstick, have women's fingernails, they wear dresses, skirts, women's blouses, pantyhose, high heels, and other women's attire and women's accesories, they carry women's purses, and they have regular appointments at beauty salons to keep themselves feminine and beautiful.
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If you really want a transexual woman who is "wife material", you may need to spend some money on her. Some of her femininzation may not be complete, she may need money for facial femininization surgery, for her estrogen, hair removal, etc... Or she may have already had much of that done.
After her femininzation is complete, you may want her to keep her "ladystick", her male genetalia, or you may want her to be castrated, have her sexual reassignment completed and be given a beautiful vagina, and have her legal status changed to female. This needs to be discussed with your transexual lady, whatever you decide in regards to her male genatalia, it has to be mutually pleasing to both of you.
Transexual women are usually very loving, very feminine, and very submissive and they want to love and please their men, but transexual women's own ideas and feelings need to be respected. A transexual lady may be a feminine submissive, but she usually does not want to be treated as a slave, but instead as a lady, or as a wife, and possibly a mother as well, if she has SRS and has her legal status changed to female, and you and she adopt children.
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All of these things need to be considered, if you are really sincere about a serious relationship with a transexual lady.
If you are just interested in one night stands with She-Male women or transexual women, then I suggest you just go to a high class transexual women's prostitution service.
If you want more than that, you need to respect the transexual woman just as you would a genetic woman. You need to respect her intellect, her emotional needs, as well as her sexual needs, and you need to be with a transexual woman that you compliment, and are compatible with, just as you would a genetic woman. You need to invest in her, in several ways, if you want her to be your loving lady, your loving wife.
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I have been femininzed myself, and have gone through this male to female transition, and have been made into a lady. So I have been through this entire femininzation process, and am now a transexual lady, and I know that my man, my future husband Jay, loves me and respects me as a lady, and as his fiancee, his future wife.
My loving man Jay believes in me as a person, and as a lady, and he has also assisted in paying for some of my femininzation, the rest I paid for myself.
Jay works, and has bought me gifts that a lady loves, he has bought me a beautiful diamond engagement ring, some beautiful earrings and jewelry, and skirts, blouses, dresses, and fashion scarves.
Jay pays for my beauty salon appointments, to have my hair done, a facial, my nails done. He wants me to be feminine and beautiful, for myself, and for him. I keep house for him, I am his housewife, and I pleasure him and please him as a loving lady does for her loving man.
He respects my intellect, he respects my opinions as a person and as a woman, he also respects me emotionally, he respects me as a person and as a woman, and treats me as a lady. We love each other, compliment each other, we are compatible, we please each other, we share with each other as a husband and wife do, just as a genetic woman does with her husband.
It is important that you love and respect your transexual lady, and compliment her, and are compatible with her.
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Best wishes darling, in your quest for a beautiful, feminine transexual lady.